100% YES! The Energy of Success

A Personal Review for Ross’s Journey

Ross, your insight is valuable, with one important refinement:

100% YES to the reality of this moment does not mean 100% approval of everything happening within it.

It means ending the inner argument with the fact that something is already here—fear, pain, Andrew, aging, uncertainty—and then becoming free to choose a response aligned with your deepest values.

I verified the book’s official description and bibliographic record. It was published by Waterford Publishing in 2016, is 278 pages, and the correctly formatted ISBN is 978-0-9579386-3-2. The unrestricted full text was not publicly available, so this is a thematic review of its verified framework rather than a chapter-by-chapter synopsis. Internet Archive bibliographic record

What Steve means by “100% YES”

In the book, “100% YES” primarily means inner congruence:

  • Your values, feelings, beliefs, intentions, and actions are moving in the same direction.
  • No hidden part of you is resisting or pulling backward.
  • Your goal represents your genuine version of success—not something imposed by family, society, or habit.
  • Action becomes less like forcing yourself and more like moving with your whole being.

The book’s verified sequence is approximately:

  1. Recognize where fear, resistance, procrastination, or inner conflict is holding you back.
  2. Use SET—Simple Energy Techniques—to work with the associated emotional charge.
  3. Identify limiting beliefs and emotional attachments.
  4. Separate your authentic values from borrowed or “false” values.
  5. Resolve conflicts between competing values or parts.
  6. Choose goals consistent with your deepest values.
  7. Build commitment and take meaningful action.

Steve’s official description emphasizes releasing emotional blocks, clarifying values, resolving inner conflicts, and acting from greater alignment. Steve Wells’s official book page, official ebook description

Your new interpretation: 100% acceptance

Your application is slightly different from Steve’s original goal-oriented meaning, but the two fit together beautifully:

Acceptance releases the struggle with what is.
Values reveal what matters.
Wise action expresses the resulting alignment.

For you, “100% Yes” could represent complete inner inclusion:

  • Yes, fear is here.
  • Yes, pain is here.
  • Yes, Andrew is here.
  • Yes, resistance is here.
  • Yes, a part of Ross wants distance.
  • Yes, another part still loves Andrew.
  • Yes, all of this may be held within PURE MIND.

Nothing has to be denied before you can become whole.

But 100% acceptance does not require 100% exposure. You can accept Andrew exactly as he is while declining shouting, intimidation, or unsafe contact.

Love does not require access.
Acceptance does not require agreement.
A protective No may express a deeper Yes.

The most helpful highlights for your journey

1. Resistance is information, not failure

Resistance can indicate fear, an old wound, a protective belief, or a conflict between important values.

If you feel resistance before meeting Andrew, the objective is not to eliminate it so that you can make yourself attend. Ask:

“What is this resistance trying to protect?”
“What would this part need in order to feel respected?”
“Is this resistance fear from the past—or wisdom about the present?”

Sometimes resistance needs releasing. Sometimes it contains an appropriate No.

2. Do not force yourself into “100% Yes”

“100% Yes” must not become another demand:

“I should accept everything completely.”
“I should not feel resistance.”
“I should be peaceful with Andrew.”

That would turn acceptance into self-pressure.

A genuine 100% Yes includes the part that cannot yet say yes:

Yes—there is resistance here too.

Paradoxically, including the “No” may be what allows inner conflict to soften.

3. Your values define success

The book rejects a one-size-fits-all definition of success. For Ross now, success does not have to mean achievement, productivity, or repairing every relationship.

Your present values include:

  • Gentleness
  • Love
  • Respect
  • Dignity
  • Truth
  • Emotional and physical safety
  • PURE MIND
  • Helping others without abandoning yourself

Therefore, a successful meeting with Andrew does not necessarily mean reconciliation. Success might mean:

“I remained with Ross.”
“I spoke calmly and honestly.”
“I recognized fear without shame.”
“I left when my boundary was crossed.”

4. Inner conflict often reflects competing good intentions

One part of Ross may love Andrew and hope for connection. Another part may remember his rage and demand distance. Neither part is necessarily wrong.

One protects relationship; the other protects safety.

Your 100% Yes is not achieved by defeating one side. It comes from honouring both and finding a course that protects your highest values:

Yes to love.
Yes to protection.
Yes to appropriate distance.

5. Release attachment—not necessarily the thought

You do not have to remove thoughts about Andrew. The work is to soften the emotional attachment or compulsion surrounding them.

This aligns closely with your existing practice:

There are Andrew thoughts and feelings.
They are as they are.
PURE MIND is here.
Ross remains free to choose.

The thought may remain while its power to overwhelm you diminishes.

6. Affirmations are less useful when the body disagrees

The book presents its method as more than positive thinking. If you say, “I am completely safe,” while your body is frightened, the affirmation may create another inner conflict.

Your wording is more honest:

There is fear here.

You are not arguing with fear. You are beginning where you actually are.

7. Alignment must lead to action

Steve’s framework does not end with emotional relief. It moves toward values and action.

For Self-Care Abiding, the final question is:

“What is the next warm and wise step?”

That step might be softening your shoulders. It might also be establishing a boundary, changing the meeting place, bringing another person, ending the meeting, or choosing no further contact that day.

8. A clear No can be 100% Yes

This may be the most important teaching for your meeting with Andrew:

A clear No to intimidation can be a 100% Yes to Ross.

Saying no is not resistance when it protects your dignity and embodies your values.

Reviewing your phrase

“It is as it is, and it always is.”

This can be profound when understood correctly. It means:

Reality is always exactly what it is in the present moment.

It need not mean:

This painful situation will remain unchanged forever.

Because “it always is” could sometimes sound permanent or hopeless, you might use a more precise form:

It is as it is, in this moment.

Or add freedom and action:

It is as it is—and I remain free to respond.

My preferred version for you is:

Yes. It is as it is. And Ross chooses wisely.

This retains radical acceptance without implying resignation.

A gentle SET and Abiding practice

Because you trained with Steve, you can use the tapping procedure as you learned it without making the practice complicated.

  1. Begin tapping gently while keeping your eyes open.

  2. Acknowledge what is present:

    Yes. There is fear here.

  3. Stop trying to change the fear:

    It is as it is, in this moment.

  4. Ask what the fear protects:

    What does Ross need now?

  5. Remember your values:

    Dignity. Gentleness. Love. Safety.

  6. Choose one action:

    Ross may pause. Ross may speak. Ross may leave.

Do not tap in order to persuade yourself that something unsafe is harmless. If tapping brings greater clarity that you should leave or establish distance, that is a successful outcome.

Research concerning the related EFT tapping method suggests it may be a promising complementary approach for anxiety, but the studies remain varied and often have methodological limitations; this research does not establish every theoretical claim about energy or prove Steve’s exact SET protocol. 2025 systematic review of EFT for anxiety

Ross’s personal meaning of 100% Yes

I suggest this as your central understanding:

100% Yes is complete honesty about what is here, complete kindness toward what I feel, and complete freedom to choose a wise response.

For your meeting with Andrew:

100% YES to reality.
100% YES to Ross.
A clear NO to intimidation.

And your short master phrase could be:

Yes. PURE MIND. It is as it is. Ross chooses wisely.

This brings Steve’s three movements directly into your abiding practice:

release resistance → remember values → take wise action.

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